Healing Emotional Pain

Healing Emotional Pain

“Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional” – Buddhist proverb

We all experience it, the endless fluctuations of our emotional states.

“WOW this is the best thing ever!”

“I’m bored… What’s on TV?”

“Can’t believe that #$@&%* cut me off!”


The seemingly cruel paradox is that while joyous feelings tend to be fleeting—anxiety and its likes rarely are.

By the way, if you’re experiencing anxiety, check out this Energy Healing for Anxiety Article.

What differentiates some emotions from others is that some are wanted—others not.

Unwanted emotions are often painful; like apathy, anger, sadness etc.

While there’s a multitude of highly valuable approaches towards healing emotional pain, like different forms of therapy, meditation, bodywork etc—they are often tools that needs a calm and/or focused environment to work.

You may want stillness and silence as you do your meditation.

Privacy is preferred for therapy.

Etc etc.

The problem? They are limited in application.

While highly valuable—wouldn’t the ability for healing emotional pain on the spot be not only a useful tool—but also a valuable approach in life?

Whatever tool or practice you already have for healing emotional pain—fantastic!

This article is not about replacing that.

It’s about how we can start processing emotional pain the second it appears.

You Already Have an Approach

You may not be aware of it, but once something emotionally painful appears—you already have a learned behavior of handling it.

It may be expressing your anger, frustration, sadness or whatever you may be feeling.

It may be repressing what you’re feeling.

Even doing nothing is still an approach, right?

Most people will either express it, or repress it.

Both of them may be valuable approaches depending on your circumstance—especially if you plan on dealing with the leftovers when given the opportunity (meditation, therapy, music etc).

But what if you took a completely counter-intuitive route and allowed yourself to feel your feelings at their deepest levels?

I’m not talking about lounging yourself towards the outmost horrors that you’ve spent half of your life dealing with.

Let’s start small.

The Depths of Your Feelings

Let’s take something tiny like an on-going irritation.

Do you have anything that you know of right now, that you find somewhat annoying or irritating?

Most people will go “oh boy, where do I start?!”.

If you don’t have any, right now—isn’t that great!

See if you can conjure up something for the sake of this experiment by recalling something somewhat annoying.

Got it?

Now ponder this question for a second—how do you know that you’re experiencing irritation?

Take a second to relax, and just allow that irritation to be there. It’s going to be anyway, whether we like it or not. Might as well allow it.

Now sense into your body, what are you feeling?

Is there anything that feels out of the ordinary? A tension? Tingling? Warmth? Cold? However you interpret the sensation, just be aware of it and its approximate location.

Chances are that it’s unpleasant. If it wasn’t—we wouldn’t call it an irritation (though it could go under a multitude of different names).

The only way to know that we’re experiencing an emotion is by interpreting the sensations going on in our body.

At their most basic level, they’re just sensations.

But the mind quickly judges them as pleasant or unpleasant sensations.

From this pleasant or unpleasant state, the mind further interprets it as a certain feeling.

From that feeling, we put a label on it. Be it sadness, happiness or excitement.

Whatever name the sensations goes under—they’re but concepts labeled by the mind.

That doesn’t mean that there’s no value to it—but for our intents of processing—we’re going to stay at their deepest and most basic form.

The sensation form.

Healing Emotional Pain on the Spot

Let’s put what we’ve learned into practice.

Once you feel unpleasant sensations, the mind is likely to judge it and put a label on it again.

Don’t worry about this. We’re not our mind and do not have full control of it. The mind does what the mind wants.

If we were our minds, surely there’d be a lot of thoughts you’d have chosen not to have by now.

It’d also be a full-time job constantly creating all those approximate 10,000 thoughts we have everyday—we wouldn’t be able to function!

Try this:

  • Become aware of the feeling you’re experiencing that’s resulting in an emotion.
  • Sense its origin in the body in its deepest form—the sensation form.
  • Now ever so lightly—just feel it.


  • Thinking about if you’re doing it right or wrong results in… thinking. This is all about feeling. Simply feel.
  • Don’t use a hard focus—lightly feel. Hard focus keeps it in place—lightly feelings allows the sensations to move and dissolve.
  • If it feels stagnant—feel the stagnation and let those sensations in.
  • There’s no “right” or “wrong” sensations. Simply feel and let them change and move as they wish.
  • You’ll know the sensation has shifted when they crawl upwards and tingle around the skull or things simply feel lighter.

By using this approach you’ll have the opportunity to either completely process the feelings on the spot—or lighten the intensity of them so that you can easily “finish up” with your favorite method for healing emotional pain when you get the opportunity.

This is a basic application of The Wonder Method.

If you want to learn more I recommend the book:

Energy Healing and The Art of Awakening Through Wonder (affiliate)

It’s the most powerful tool and approach I’ve found for energy healing and healing emotional pain.

I’ll be writing more about it in future articles.

Happy healing!

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